Hi, Z Have been reading your posts, I too have a h who is in constant contact with this "ow". If I ahve already posted here, or if you have read my thread, I have no proof of pa, but any dummy can see that it is ea. They work together, lunch together, bowl on team together, we go over to her house, she comes here. I seem to be the one who feels it is the problem in our M. In c h does not see it as a issue, says they are very good friends, and he does not understand why I don't think the opposite sex can't just be friends. I have come to a peace the last few months, and I either except this friendship, or I pack his bags for him because I know that is what would happen. Maybe reality is I don't really want to lose all I have, are they really having the full blown "A". I hope not, and have to trust what he told me many months ago, but I kept bringing it all up, and ultimately that is why I am here. As I have relaxed and trusted him more, accept that this is his friend, he is slowly coming back to our m. I have not asked if he really wants to work on it, or if he still feels like he wants to leave sometimes, because he is still here, and the signs tell he must. So, we all ahve to trust our guts, and it may not work for everyone. Sue
