From reading your posts I feel as though you are still letting him "run" everything. You need to do the things you want or need to do like you never met him. You will drive yourself insane otherwise. You also need to realize you can't expect him to do anything you would have before. You have expect nothing from him. Believe me I know it is hard, but once you can program yourself this way it will be easier. Also I think I read that you were trying to change yourself to fit what he wants or needs- you need to change only if you feel you need to for you.
