Need advice

[want2believe]

inpain - thanks for your comments. I appreciate it. I will try to read your thread this weekend.

Just a couple of comments, as I know each of our stiches is different, and different things work or don't work.
WAH did try to avoid sex with me initially. I know though that I can still turn him on, and although uncertain if that was the right approach, did usually successfully initiate sex with H. Sometimes H initiates it. I personally thing this has made a difference and that is part of why WAH is coming around more often, and why OW is not in the picture hardly at all anymore.

WAH could have gone to see OW yesterday very easily. He didn't. He could also possible go see OW tomorrow (Sat) very easily, as he'll be out of town again, but he's talking like he won't be gone long. Same as he did about
his trip out of town yesterday before he went. If he does,
that's something I can't control, but if he doesn't, it just makes me feel better about our R working out at some point here in the future. I know WAH isn't ready to come home yet, nor am I sure I want him to come home yet before he's ready, as I'm not sure I could handle WAH leaving again. Not sure what to do when that time comes (in 3 months I suspect when his lease is up), and I still think he's not ready. I think about it, but am waiting to see what happens in the next few months first.

I just show WAH I want to be with him, and if he doesn't
return the interest, I drop it and do something else, but still (try) to stay happy and act like it doesn't matter. I know it's his choice, and I have no guarantee's he'll come back, so I am moving on with my life and trying to get things done that I want done. I just that my list is long, and time consuming, and with working full time, kids, house, and a business on the side, there isn't alot of free time to work the issues. I rarely ask him for help unless I REALLY need it, and I don't get upset if he doesn't offer it. I can figure out on my own then how to handle most things, and I do. Sometimes lately out of the blue, he's doing things around the house that surprize me that he's doing it. I just say thanks.

Got to run. It'll be intersting to read your thread I think. Thanks again! I appreciate any and all comments!