Need advice

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I'm not sure what to do here. My WAH says he wants to spend some time at Christmas with me and our two S's, but he won't tell me when. My brother has asked us down to his place for Xmas, along with one of my other sisters. My S's want to go there. My B and his W are the only one's in the family that know H moved out. No one else has a clue that we are having problems, yet when I tell him he is invited also, he says he needs to stay and watch the business. I don't know what to do right now. Do I stay and spend Xmas eve with him, or do I spend Xmas with him like on Friday night, and go be with some of my family. I don't know what is best, especially as WAH still acts a little distant around me, until I make a move to kiss him. He stayed over two nights in a row this weekend.

It's just so confusing. He's the one that moved out, he's the one that won't tell me what he wants. Its like he wants me to make the decision. I almost feel like he's testing me, yet at the same time I sort of see this a test for him.
Does he want us to potentially work out enough that he'd come with, or drive down separately to spend some time with us.

Part of me wants to write him a letter telling him how I feel, but I don't know if I should. I want this to work out, but I also don't want it to seem like I'm going to just drop all my plans because he suddenly wants me to do something. This is something I usually always did in the past, which I want to change. I just dont' feel like we're at a point where I can really say what I feel yet. He actually started to get mad at me when I tried to explain why I didn't know what I was doing yet, because he hadn't said anything about spending Xmas with us. He's only asked me what my plans are for Xmas. He did then say he wanted to spend some time with the boys and me, but wouldn't indicate when. He appears to be leaving that decision up to me. I keep leaning towards going to my brothers with the kids, mainly because if I stay here to be with him, I have absolutely no idea how much time he'd actually spend with us. Sometimes I feel like he expects me to be able to read his mind. Yet, at the same time, I feel like if I don't stay, our R might regress again. I guess I also feel like WAH is using me. I'm doing all the Xmas shopping, wrapping, mailing. He hasn't done anything.

I'm just not sure yet what to do. Luckily my B and SIL aren't pushing me, as they know I might not know until the last minute. That helps, but really what to I have to loose if we have an early Xmas, and I leave him here alone for a couple of days. I know he's not ready to come back yet.

Any comments are welcome. I need to mull this over in my head some more.