Quote: He even told me he just picks stuff up and puts it away as walks past it. OK - then tell me why he could leave things laying around for 2 months and never put them away when we lived together. All you had to do was look at his office and garage - by a long shot, the two most trashed rooms in the house...Not to mention the few things he's taken out/used when he's been at the house and not put them away, just this past week alone.
My H was the same way and said the same thing when he left.
Quote: Lastly, he tells me, he feels like I'm controlling him. When I ask for clarification on that, it's because he can't just take off when he wants to do what he wants.
H said the same thing as he was spending all his time playing golf and hanging out with his bitter divorced younger brother and all his bitter divorced friends.
I was the only responsible adult in the house. I still am but now I don't have to put up with his selfishness on a daily basis.
Quote: BTW, no he didn't come over to help put of the Xmas tree, and he still hasn't mentioned Xmas plans of any sort. I'm torn between waiting to see if he asks about Xmas, or if I should ask him, although I keep leaning towards waiting to see if he asks, or indicates he wants to spend Xmas with us or not. Any thoughts on this anyone?
I would make my own Christmas plans and if he asks then you can make the decision about whether you want to include him. I don't think I would wait for him because then you will feel sad if he doesn't ask. Just plans as if he will not be around and try to plan things that sound fun to you.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
