Need advice

[want2believe]

WAH husband called last night while I was at the store shopping. We talked about some business issues, and the upcoming Xmas dinner with our business employee's on Sunday. I told him I bought a new dress. He asked how long it was, and when I said it was just below the knee's he said, he'd hoped it would have been shorter, as I have great legs. I laughed - and thanked him for the compliment. Anyway, he ended up asking me to meeting him for drinks and dinner (just the two of us). I agreed. We
had a fun relaxing evening together, and he even came back to the house (although he told me I had to ask him to come over if I wanted him to), and stayed all night. Something he hasn't done since he moved out. I wasn't expecting him to stay, and I half expected him to get up and leave sometime during the night, but he didn't. I didn't get my hopes up though, as I've seen his demeaner change after being with me. I got up first and started doing stuff around the house. Once he got up, he left pretty quickly, but he did find me to give me a kiss. When I saw him at the business a couple of hours later, he was nice, but distant. I expected as much, and just remained causual with him.
I came to the conclusiong earlier this week that in order to detach, and given I know this will take time for my WAH deal with his MLC, that I'll just treat him like a friend.
I'm also not going to let myself get my hopes up too much when things seem promising, because I know it'll be a long haul yet, as he needs to work through his feelings. He did thought tell me he still loved me last night, but I already knew that, and have known that. He's been the one that's had to figure it out. I'm not assuming he'll be back home soon, be I strongly believe he'll be back some day.

I will admit I checked his cell phone this morning while he was still in bed. He hasn't called OW since Nov 24, so maybe he didn't see her last weekend. In reading the book "My Husbands Midlife crisis" by Sally Conway, she did mention that at times the MLCer needs to just get away briefly to relax, and to let them. I can only hope that his what happened last weekend.

Well, I got things to do. I plan on getting my Xmas tree up tonight. I told H that last night. (Although I've noticed that he doesn't always remember things I told him from one day to the next. From what I've read, this isn't uncommon either for a MLC'er.) If he shows up to help, he does, otherwise I'll do it myself with the boys. He knows where we are, and it's his entirely his decision when he wants to be with us.

Anyway, it been a good week. He's come by more often than I expected, and I've just been pleasant, but not demanding or expecting any affection from him. Last night was a bonus, but as I said before, I'm not getting my hopes up like I use to - but it is encouraging.