Thanks for stopping by my thread and providing me your DB expertise. You truly are a DB master.
I know exactly what you mean about your W not remembering the incident about apologizing for lashing out due to what you think is a growing impatience. This happened to me last night when I apologized to W for judging her last week on how she feels about the Catholic religion and the commandments she violated. (Empathetic listening is definitely an area I need to work on. I'm getting a lot better though.) However, she said that she had forgotten all about the incident. How much easier all this would be if we could only get inside the alien's mind, even for only a day or week, to see, feel, hear what they are thinking, feeling and going through. Oh well, I guess DB is the best alternative.
I just wanted to reemphasize your post for others that are reading. I have to agree with you on your thoughts about the dynamic nature of going dark, no OR talk, pursuit, etc. They are there as guidelines only or suggestions if you will. They are specific techniques that need to be tailored to a specific situation or relationship. These techniques need to be tweaked based on the roots of DB...don't go down cheeseless tunnels...experiment and monitor results...do more of what works and less of what doesn't...180...and the granddaddy concept of them all - PATIENCE.
