Need advice

[want2believe]

Thanks for the responses. Yes, I have read many of the resources, not any of the books yet though.

Actually yesterday was a little confusing. Don't get me wrong, I had a great day with my H, but I feel I must be cautious still as I don't want to get my hopes up too soon, as I know things can change over night, as I've already seen happen previously. But, it does leave me wondering as what my H did yesterday, doesn't seem to match the MLC scenerio, although I could see classic symptoms in him before this of being in a MLC.

My husband came over and started working on the brakes immediately. I went out to see him, and told him I thought he would of at least came in to say "Hi" (nicely of course). I don't think he was sure if I was ready to see him yet. Anyway, after about 5 minutes of talking, we reach over and gave me a kiss. I returned the kiss, as I know sex had been his biggest complaint about me previously. Anyway, as the
day progressed, he asked me to go with him to get brake parts (twice that day), in the store, he pulled me closer and kept his hand on me, he told me I needed to start sitting in the middle of the truck, closer to him, he told me he "loved me"
a few times. He also said he doesn't want to loose me, nor give up everything. The OW isn't totally out of his life, he said, he can't just be a prick and blow her off, but he plans on cutting back on his talks with OW, and hopefully stop calling her within a month or so. I told him I understood, but it wouldn't work out for us until the OW was totally out of his life. He wasn't ready to move back into the house. He has a lease on his duplex until March, although he left it somewhat open ended as to what he'd do. He didn't leave immediately after sex either, even though I know he had to go back to his place to get some e-mails sent for work that night yet. We spelt together for about 1 1/2 hours before he got up to leave. At that point, I could see he was having some second thoughts, but not as intense has I'd seen previously, and he was still being affectionate.

He also had stated eariler that he wanted to find someone to take the kids for a weekend, and let us both just get away for a whole weekend together. I told him I'd like that, but I wanted to wait a week before trying to arrange this because I wanted to make sure really wanted this, and wouldn't change his mind (as I've seen previously in the last couple of months when he appeared to want to try and make things work). He said he understood. He also wants us to make sure we discuss whatever bothers us immediately, rather than holding it in like we have in the past. He said he has seen me changing.

Is this too good to be true? Now I'm not sure if he's going through MLC, or not, although other things he'd done seemed to match what a MLC'er would do. I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much based on this one day, but it is a little hard not to, given what he said to me, and he did seem sincere. I am waiting for him to contact me again, although he is suppose to be over to be with the kids tonight while I go to volleyball tonight.

Need2Believe
Me: 44
H: 48
Married - 20 years
HD from 1st M - 29
S - 13
S - 10
Asked for D - 8/14/06
Found out about OW - 8/30/06
Moved out 10/14/06