Well, detachment is the letting go you've heard about. It's not presuming all the drama is about you, or all your stuff is about him. It being good to you, developing your own Self. It's reaching a place where you are ok with everything around you, because you realize you can't control it, you can only accept what is.
Funny you ask, tho. Right now, peanut is burning up the newcomers board with a new discussion about detachment. This thread started Friday, has well more than 100 posts already and well more than 1000 views. It's the best thing I've seen on this board in a long time, in terms of helping people to be the best they can be, of letting go of the drama their WS has brought into their lives.
Check this out. Almost every single post is worth reading.
