ok, now I'm confused. Please explain the difference between backing off and whatever it is you said you do(sorry , I forgot) Oh yeah-detaching! I truly need an explantion here between the difference=SPECIFICS PLEASE! You were RIGHT on about the lack of intimacy not having to do with sex and what you said hit home so hard Z. Like right now...,my H came home from work-I ran to greet him-threw my arms areound him and told him I was glad he was home-I had really missed him. He was cordial-no mushy stuff for this guy right now. Dinner was ready. I had to wait until he finished in the BATHROOM before we could eat. I guess when ya gotta go ya gotta go, but then I waited until AFTER dinner to tell him the next door neighbor's barn lights had gone out and he wanted ADRIAN to come over and fix them. I am so SICK of EVERYBODY wanting ADrian to come and FIX something for them. He really is a McGiver-he can fix anything.HE clears a few things off the table and whoosh-off he goes to the neighbores. Then he tells me they are going to the neithgbors office for something. I AM SOOOOO SICK of him putting everybody else FIRST. I am not a selfish person,but this man cannot say NO to anybody at any time. I'm always last. I had told him I had missed him for him to come home and go off with the neighbor. Mr. Consideration don't you think? I'm just really feeling sorry for myself because this is my life with him and its not gonna change. I can take it some of the time but not ALL the time. WHEN does he consider ME and MY feelings???If I say anything I look selfish. I just have to buck up and be Miss understanding of the century. Ok. now you know how I feel tonight. Please explain to me the difference and how you go about it. I ned to do something different. Things are not getting worse, but they are not exactly getting any better either. SOS, HELP! Rachael
