Good one Kaw-I think youare right no. They must exhaust themselves trying to choose which plan to take-then it changes. SHe will finally come to the conclusion the plan to stay with her family is the right one after all her fretting. AFter all, its what usually happens. THey stay, and then they decide it's where they should have been all along-mentally and physically, and THEN yousatr to see eosme real changes inher actions towards you. I am speaking from my OWN experience. THe inner turmoil is just too much after a time. SHe will make her decision and be glad she did. Rachael