I really feel for your sitch Z. You are The DB king but your W won't play along. Your idea about your W trying to wear you down is very interesting. My W told me during our reconciliation time that she was doing that to me. She said that she didn't have a good reason to D me and was trying to make me mad enough to leave. I agree with your theory but I think it is a passive attempt. If she gets to do everything she wants and still be M then why get D. The question is will she reward your perseverance with mending your R or will she continue to take advatage of the sitch. My W was touched by the fact that I wouldn't give up but what finally changed the sitch was me getting fed up and letting her know I was. Your passive approach has held it together so far but you and RandyH are in the same boat. You are amazingly patient and incredible DBers but at what point does the sitch break you down. I don't think your W has anything to lose. Her life will not change a whole lot whether you stay M or not. That is a problem for your position. You are a better man than me by leaps and bounds for your diligence in keeping your M together. She may appreciate that one day but unfortunately it will probably be too late. Take care of yourself. Become selfish in regards to your feelings and well being. You have shown her all she should need to see in regards to your love and devotion to her. She has had plenty of time to figure this out in my opinion but she also has no motivation to restore the R. That is a huge problem.
