Z, ********************************************************** She is stuck between us... afraid to make a mistake and leave the marriage, afraid to allow this thing that looks like her happiness to her pass her by. She remains clueless that happiness lies within. She is searching for it outward. I believe that as long as he is hanging in there, as long as he is a distraction from her unhappiness, she will never notice or realize where that happiness's true source is. There is nothing I can do to hasten that discovery, nothing I can do to point it out. Any attempt will be read as controlling and directive. It requires self discovery, self awareness. As long as she can blame me for her unhappiness, and few him as the source of happiness, she will not examine that self. **********************************************************
Z,
Have you given W complete control of the R? For a guy who knows so much(as written above), what are you after. Does W really talk about this guy(OM) alot? She cringes when you touch her?? Sounds like somebody I would not want to hang with very much. What progress has your W made?
Never forget that your R is not just about W getting what she wants. You need your fulfillment to. Maybe your looking to W for friendship is like looking for justice from a traffic judge.
I don't want to exacerbate any less than loving feelings you are experiencing. I just merely want to point out that you don't sound like you are caring for Z very well.
