Aside from OR talks while "dating" what do you talk about? How do you decide what to do? The OR thing is like the elephant in the living room sorta don't you think? I mean isn't always in the back of your mind-it's THERE you just don't talk about it all the time. That's ok ,but what are you doing??? Dating while she's seeing another man? I guess I'm one old fashioned girl but that would make me kinda crazy. Imean I THINK my H is beign faithful now. He says he is and acts different than when he was in the A with "her". He is more "present" sometimes, and wants me physically more. HE is effectionate,but I usually innitiate the effection-like snuggling or hugging. Its alwasy been that way though so its nothing new. I'm just the more effectionate one. I would like to turn that around. 11 yrs ago when I had my breif A, my H was so effectionate trying to win me over. I though AHHHH, finally I have what I need. I came back to him, which I don't regret, but he went back to being his old self. IF I back off will he think I'm distancing, or might he start taking more innitive to be more effectionate? Anyone have any Ideas to get what this girl wants and needs from her man? Rachael
