Next, just let me say, good for you to want a better marriage and be willing to work on you!
I had a lot of issues from childhood that I drug through life with me, stuffed down somewhere inside, and ignored them. Abandonment was a huge issue for me, right up to the point my H of 25 years is now XH?!
DR was the first book I read but it didn't help much because of all the abandonment issues. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing was next and that was the beginning of healing but too late for my marriage. I haven't seen my mom since I was 4 and my dad was not very involved until he remarried and decided I needed to live with him and my step-mother when I was in 6th grade. The abandonments continued from there and my dad was emotionally distant. I know I would have reacted to the locked in keys and husband almost identically to the way you did.
I have two other books I'll add to your list: The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz and Marriage Fitness by Mort Fertel.
But, The Five Love Languages is probably the first. Learn what language your husband talks when he shares his love with you and I think that might give you a better understanding and ability to feel more appreciated.
