But if you weren't answering his calls, then he had no way of knowing if you still needed him to come or not, right? So that was your part in the mess.
See, what we have all learned is that what we have control over is OUR 50% of the relationship. And amazingly, when we start taking care of OUR 50% better, our spouses usually change THEIR behavior, too.
As for the medical questions - let me just say, that if you are diabetic and having unexpected lows or mysterious other symptoms, there are a couple of things I recommend having checked:
- ask to be tested (THOROUGHLY) for thyroid disease. 5% of Type I diabetics will also have autoimmune thyroid disease. Screening tests in the "normal" range may not be enough to rule it out in every case - insist on TSH,Free T4, free T3, and a thyroid antibody panel. Hypothyroidism can cause a myriad of strange symptoms, usually fatigue, weight gain, dry skin and thinning hair, but at the extremes, neuropathy, psychosis, and coma!!
- ask to be tested for celiac disease. Due to an autoimmune reaction to wheat gluten, celiac disease also has a 5% overlap with type I diabetes, and can cause a diabetic to be "brittle". Blood tests for anti-ttg or anti-endomysial antibodies as well as anti-gliadin antibodies can screen for this. Again, celiac disease usually causes symptoms of weight loss or diarrhea, but at extremes can cause much more severe and varied symptoms.
- ask to have your cortisol levels checked. Addison's disease (adrenal failure) is much rarer, but is also usually an autoimmmune disease.
See, we KNOW that people with one autoimmune disease ar at increased risk for another - still, we tend to blame all the symptoms on the first, identified disease and forget to look for the others.
