I think my H and I view alot of things in the same manner, and we are very well matched.

I will explain a small episode that occurred recently, and hopefully that may shed some light.


I am trying to do a limited amount of work for a friend of mine, who has graciously offered work to me on a very part time basis, as my body allows. This work involves driving out of town. I was out of town one morning (approx. 30 miles away from home) and accidentally locked my keys in the car. I think that is the first time I have ever done that!
Not a good feeling. This was downtown, and while it seems fairly safe, I was stuck there in the downtown square. I had also locked my purse in the car, did have my phone.

H was due to go to work in approx. 1.5 hrs. I phoned and stated that I had locked my keys in . At that same moment a sherriff drove by and I flagged him down.. he said they no longer unlock vehicles and the city police did not either. (can you believe that?)
So I phoned H back and told him. He told me to phone someone for help. I did feel quite exhasperated at that moment! After all, I had phoned him for help.
He asked me where the spare keys were, and I said I wasn't exactly sure, but prob. in one of the normal places (kitchen cabinet container, or cubby on the counter). I have to admit, I felt very angry at him at the onset of that phone call and told him I had to go.
I tried to enlist help at a pawn shop there, to no avail. During this time, H did phoned several times and I did not answer the call. I finally flagged down an officer from a different town, who was there for a hearing. He helped me open the vehicle and I was on my way, about an hour later.

I do have diabetes and have an insulin pump. While I dont' dwell on this, or expect anyone else in my life to.. it is still a factor I have to keep in the back of my mind, no money and no food on my person.

I asked H why he did not come right away to assist me, and I was just not satisfied with the answers. He left for work before I arrived back home, and then we discussed it further later. I told him I had felt abandoned and he just did not seem to have been concerned.

I dont' know whether I over-reacted or if my expectations were acceptable. This is one thing that does seem to be a reoccurring theme.. me fending for myself.