Might I suggest that the emotional attachment of lust you can feel with 'cybersex' can be so wild that when you compare it to teasing in RL it makes RL too much work. I strongly suggest you either cyber each other as a tease, look at a 'chickflick' together but not voyer on seperately till you get this fixed.
From someone who can't convince her H that ML is over 50% emotions and who can be talked into climax and that warm oil sensation.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
WELCOME!