__________________________________________________________ I am starting to see many times when she made a statement that I think was really a projection of what she wanted from me. For instance, if she complains that I am controlling her, I am now seeing in her words that she DOES want me to control things, maybe not her per se, but the uncertainty that frightens her. So the ideas of Blackfoot and Dieda are slowly starting to sink in. _________________________________________________________
This one reminds me of a Schnarch thing too. Very often our SO is not trying to control us but rather, to control themselves.
