Cobra you seem to be getting the results that you want from the methods that you are choosing. While I don't agree with the way that you have been atacking the problem I understand where you are coming from. You seem to be focusing strongly on " breaking " down walls that are due to past trauma I would sugest that you look into the biology of trauma and PTSD. What may be of interest to you would be reasearch into the activity of the amygdala and its role in memory, stress, emotions and sex. As you are creating you own therapeutic model for the treatment of both your own and your wifes issues I sugest that you investigate what is curently known about processes that lie beneath the behaviors.
