I hear you and agree. Perhaps I should say that I know this is not a permanent position we want to be in, but it may be good enough for now, to pull this marriage together enough to move forward. In fact, it may be the only hope we have, to accept the flaws we have and help each other heal, knowing that together we can become more functional but that there is a long way to go. So I am not trying to rationalize it as a permanent state, but for now it IS the reality and is as much as we can do.
