[MJontheMend]

Cobra is the pursuer in his marriage...to the point where he sometimes mistakes his own obstinance as his W's.

I guess I think that every Enneagram Type can be the Avoider or the Pursuer or HD or LD depending on the situation or the person with whom they are in relation. Also, I think Cobra has said that he has been trying to be more confrontational that it isn't his natural style. Sort of like the dark,cranky math professor breaking his concentration on a problem to smack the naughty fun-seeking, defiant Type 7/8 with a ruler. (I hope you appreciate this analogy Cobra because I'm making you sound kind of sexy here.)