Jenny, I just don't see Cobra as type 5, mainly bc my daughter is such a 5 (even she reasd through the enneagrams and picked it out). She is analytic and intense ( so is Cobra) but she is amazingly detached too...can sit for hours working on an art project...likes to escape from reality...would avoid rather than confront. Cobra is the pursuer in his marriage...to the point where he sometimes mistakes his own obstinance as his W's.
Just the gals chatting about you, C.
BTW, I do follow your thread. From where I sit, I feel you have the tendency to over-analyze W...and not reflect on your own vulnerabilities. I wonder what would happen if you sat back just a bit and not take the bait of your W's childish actions/irresponsibility...maybe she would surprise you. Just an idea.
