I am beginnng to think that you need to seriously look at putting your kids first and nevermind the marriage and specifically nevermind Mrs. C's issues. Your marriage is in shambles, whether you preserve it or not. You each bait each other, have little respect for each other and the reason that you had sex recently is actually beyond me. I wonder what would happen if you defocused on Mrs. Cobra and her issues and concentrated on building you R with your kids and protecting your kids from your issues and those of Mrs. C. The reason that everyone is so focused on the kids is because this is a serious issue, every bit as serious as you and Mrs. C. You and Mrs. C are adults - you are actually both capable of choosing to remain civil and married even if in name only. The kids have no choice but to continue living in the war zone.
I know you want more out of you marriage but think of it this way - when your kids marry do you want them to think this is normal? At the very least, confine your marital spats to a private area in your home. Your kids will still know what is going on but it won't be in their faces.
Please Cobra - picture your kids as the innocent babies that they once were and what your hopes and dreams were in parenting them. Be that parent. Mrs. C can follow along or not. Do you really even care what she does, who she is or what she thinks at this point?
I'm sorry if this comes across as harsh but it seems to me that you need to choose somewhere, anywhere, that you can make some positive, uplifting efforts. Aren't you exhausted by stategizing, analyzing and fighting Mrs. C? Believe me you are hurting yourself too.
