[heatherg]

Have you told your W that you didn't file Monday or has it just gone unaddressed so far?

Something I've been thinking about as I've read through your thread is your comment:

I think that security will help the kids more than anything else.

I wholeheartedly agree with you. Telling them that you 'intended' to file just ripped their security blanket right off, no? Even though you think that the end result is a dramatic improvement in the household atmosphere, I have to ask, an improvement for whom? Because I guarantee your kids are confused and are not better off for hearing your declaration.