As I said....I know your W started the conversation.....YOU SHOULD HAVE LOOKED OUT FOR THE CHILDREN AND ASKED THEM TO LEAVE THE ROOM! You should have ended that scene in the best interest of the kids, not in the interest of you or your W. It appeared the kids were allowed to stay in the room merely to massage the ego of you or your W. Your W hoped they'd side with her, you felt you already knew what the kids would say (so you would prove you were right.)
Having your children in the room during this helps help your children what manner....how exactly is it doing what is best for them? By forcing them to come up with a diplomatic answer to a question they never should have been asked how does that help? By being stuck in the same room where one parent is basically making them choose one or the other to live with...how does that help?
Do you honestly not see how wrong this is to do to your kids (for both of you to do to your kids)?
