Quote: This is where I strongly differ with the consensus on this board that you must accept the fact hat you cannot change someone else.
Cobra, for the zillionth time, this statement does NOT mean that you simply "accept" the way things are and resign yourself to a life of misery. This statement means you put the fulcrum where the lever will actually WORK to move the thing you want moved.
Changing your own behavior is the only thing you can actually change, BUT changing your own behavior CAN change the dynamics of the R and lead to a change in the other person.
You cannot directly MAKE someone else do anything, short of using force. You can make it worth their while to change, but THEY still have to do the changing.
Why are you blind to this subtle-- BUT REAL-- distinction?
