Welcome to our land of limbo and never ending answers to nothing. The only thing that is certain, is that it will be the wildest ride you ever got pushed onto, and couldn't escape.
Get ready to learn things about yourself, and her, you never wanted to know. The books say in the end, you will learn that you are a better person than you are led to believe at this moment. I agree.
The books say in the end, she will have changed from a bug into a beautiful butterfly. Hhmmm. Not sure I agree with that one, but maybe I don't know my butterflies. There are good resources here, great people, and lots of reading references that can help you prepare for your next life, whatever that is. I think it is the one this leads us to.
Problem is, this seems like an infinite loop so often it is hard to imagine there being another one, a better one ahead. Don't despair. There is one. It is better. We find it in our own time, when we are ready. It is different for each of us. The outcome is different for each of us. It is always better than the roller coaster ride we started our posts with.