Well I am new here. I have been lurking for a few weeks and finally took the plunge to sign up. These MLC resources have been helping. Even more than my Therapist who doesn't quite get it. I have been with my W for 12 glorius years and married for 10. She turns 38 next week and I turned 50 in June I am however a young 50. We have no kids by choice. We have a great dog .
I have been the happiest man in the entire world for the past 11 1/2 years with a beautiful loving kind understanding supportive wife. Six months ago my world began to crumble. My Father became ill at 87 a great loving guy and close to my W. My wife found a cist and endometriosis. My W had a falling out with her Father over childhood issues (no abuse). I turned 50 and we had our 10 yr anniversary.
All this hit my wife hard and sent her into what I believe is MLC. All the signs are there. She announced she was in counseling last Summer which is good but we used to discuss everything so when she told me that I saw that I was in a different marriage than I thought I was.
This is hell. I saw a post that mentioned grieving the loss of the marriage you had that has helped to realize that is over and I must rebuild. She is in the replay stage of MLC mostly right now though they do overlap with other stages.
I won't go into all the little details but this has been a very hard time for me with my Father's ongoing illness and with my W physically here but mentally gone. I believe she has a EA going on but swears no PA. She is very against cheating (well at least the old her was, not so sure now)since that was her father who left the family when she was 15's mo.
Any way I am glad I found this place. My grieveing stage started when the I love you but am not in love with you bomb landed on 9/10/06. I am more hopeful than then. Though last night I had a bad dream about her twice in the same night and woke up both times crying. Only to wake up to the fact that I am still going through this. I try not to dwell on my this and not be constantly at the effect of her moods but if you're here you know that aint easy.
