Sometimes I think mine is gone and then bam, it's back.
This is soooo true. I thought that I've accepted the A and moved on. I've always thought that the sex that they had didn't bother me, it was the emotions that was the difficult one. Then out of the blue, I had visions of H having sex with her..and I almost died. It was most painful to have such visions. Had to forced myself to STOP thinking about them. Shucks!! It was horrible.
But as most have said, time will heal us...and indeed it has. Although memories still crop up, and still hurt me, the duration does not last as long as before. As I look back to those horrible times when my spouse was an ALIEN specimen, it seems like I've had a nightmare and I've just woken up. And all those bad things didn't happen at all. But of course it did...just have to put it all behind me and move forward. And I think all of us on this BB is doing that too...
And Cat03 - YES!! You have to stop going to the ow's MySpace site. It will do you NO good whatsoever. Forget that she existed. She's not worth your surfing time.
