Finally sat down (actually laid down in bed) and had a first round of discussion. Though there is not agreement yet, at least she sees what I'm asking for is not the world. She is not agreeing to split the kid time 50-50, and therefore wants CS. I want to have the kids half time (I feel it's only fair since they are mine, too) and I proposed spliting the actually cost of kid care, proportional to our salaries. She is saying she doesn't want to have to negotiate the payments every month (like if shes take them out for dinner and puts that on the kid bill, then we have to figure out what is fair on that expense - I suggested we draft rules for it, but she is claiming she doesn't want to talk to me about anything other than kids after the D). She might have a point. But I thought having the kids half time and then writing her a check for $3k a month didn't sound fair either. So we haven't agreed on anything, but at least we didn't get in a fist fight.
She started quite a few sentences starting with the word "You..." and I tried to get her to stop doing that. She does well if she has time to sleep on things, so I'll see what she has to say tomorrow.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
