Well, last weekend we did another round of "I'm not sure getting a D is the right thing..." and even though I did my best to ignore it, I still got my hopes up a bit. This one only lasted 12 hours, but it still hurt like hell when she reverted.
For quite a while now, she has been completely opposed to us working out the deal ourselves. She's said I'm "too smart and too verbal" for her to feel comfortable doing that. But now, $8K in with only one two-hour meeting to show for it, she's beginning to think it might be a good idea to try to work out something.
But she constantly feels I'm trying to rip her off. She cited our coaching session a few weeks ago, where we agreed that since I make twice what she does, I would pay twice as much to the coach. It was $400, and I paid $270, she $130. But she thought I was ripping her off by not paying..., ah, er, hmm, oh, I guess I did pay the right amount! She had convinced herself that I didn't and I had to practically draw her a picture before she realized I had.
So we are going to dip our toes in the water and see if we can trust each other enough to split everything up fairly. Of course, if we could do that, it means we probably could figure out how to fix our marriage, but that irony will elude her, I'm sure.
More later.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
