Hi there B4

Unfortunately I have to completely agree with Tom. For the sake of your kids you HAVE TO wake up now. Your wife is unbalanced and she is trying to suck everyone into hell with her. The whole process you have been going through has been described to me as "crazy-making". Whether you like it or not you have to fight now. You need to take your kids for their own protection. you need to abandon the collaborative garbage that will obviously not work anyway and FIGHT. You have a responsibility to your kids to do that. YES, use the police report in the D and petition the court to do a psych evaluation and determine the mental/emotional fitness of both you and your wife. When they do that, they will do ink blots and other tests that will prevent your W from hiding those nasty traits behind a facade. Have your D testify against her mother and how she had to apologize to her friend. Your daughter already knows her mother is crazy, now its time for you to admit it. Quite honestly, if I were you I would be terrified for my kids. To sit in a public place and do what she did IS NOT normal behavior and shows a dangerous aggressive side. She is not good for her children and you know it. The gloves are off and she has shown you who she truly is, now see it for yourself. If you sacrafice your children for the sake of keeping peace now, then you are exactly what she says you are.

Now B4, on the compassionate side, I understand exactly how hard all of this is. I will likely have to fight for full custody of my kids, and I will probably have to do some ugly, hurtful things to get that, BUT this is about my kids now. Yes, I still love my wife very much, but she has created the situation and I cannot protect her feelings in this and protect my kids at the same time. I know you are feeling the same way. Your wife is the adult, let her fight for herself! Be the adult B4 and the parent your kids need. Your kids need you, not her and you can't help her anymore. Let her sink into hell alone and see what happens from there. DO NOT let her take the kids with her.

Last edited by rhoch; 12/19/06 01:09 PM.
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