Suddenly, a small ray of hope

[built4speed]

Thanks guys. It's very nice to have someone notice what I am going through.

So meeting #1 done. Not a great start: I noticed her atty had a printout of one of my personal figuring spreadsheets in his file: I lost it. The only way he could have that is if she dug through my computer and found it. I was pissed: after all the times she has accused me of passive-aggressive behavior, or trying to screw her or hurt her when I had done nothing, she ends up being the one caught actually stepping over the line. The four of us had a serious discussion about privacy and respect, and she apologized for doing that.

It was still tough for me. I didn't want to be there and when they asked why I wanted to do a collaborative D, I said, I didn't, that I was given the choice of two planks to walk, and that this was the "least worst option." Her atty really liked my wording and actually wrote it down.

So, no negotiations but several more meetings set up. W actually called me on the way home to invite me for a drink and said that she'd buy and we wouldn't talk about the meeting. We both had headaches. At one point she said she needs to do the D to get on her own and said that after that we'd see where we were at. I told her she was an idiot, and she said, "I know." She apologized for not being smart enough when we met to see that we shouldn't be together. I said nothing: what do you say to that???

So, in summary, this sucks, and the serious stuff has not started yet. Fun, fun, fun.