Good lord! B4S, I'm sorry you're going through this and in a way I also feel sorry for your wife that she's ill.
You sound level headed and calm, I envy you for that. I read some of your comments and the way you pointed out the irony made me chuckle...not that its a laughing matter but you sound like a cool guy.
I'm also jealous that you're finally strong enough and ready to walk away from this mess. I wish I was that strong because sometimes I feel I can't take it anymore.
Anyway, for you soon all this will be over and you'll have a chance to start a brand new life exactly the way you want.
Keep us updated on your sitch, i'm bookmarked this thread.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again