Suddenly, a small ray of hope

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Well, the plan is for a collaborative divorce, so there will be no subpoenas or testimony. We just work out the deal and they file it with the judge at the end. I doubt anything in the file would be strong enough to cause any difference in court. W says her C says she's just stressed out, not mentally ill. Yeah, aren't we all.

Attys delayed the meeting last week, so still have not had our first meeting. I am dodging all attempts at negotiating, because they just end up with her screaming at me that I'm trying to rip her off, or get my way, or screw her over, no matter how fair I am. Just mentioning that I had made a list of household items to help us sort them out caused a three-hour tirade and accusations that I couldn't possibly have come up with the idea for a list on my own (gee, we are trying to figure out how to sort out our stuff, so I'll make a list on the computer - right, that is so non-obvious, someone else just had to have suggested that!). Just another way for her to come up with some conspiracy theory on all of this.

Then last Thursday D14 had a friend sleep over because I was taking them both to their running race in Orlando Friday. Well, we got buried in snow and all the flights got cancelled, so I was scrambling to rebook our trip. W for some reason decided it was "dump on D14" day, so proceeded to yell at her in front of her friend for some number of hours until we left. D14 was so mad and embarrassed that she now says there is no way she will live with W after the D. I'm not sure what to do. I know the courts will take the kids wishes into account, but it would be weird not having them all together, but I'm sure it's been done before. I need to think about what I want to do.

I hate this.