It looks like our sitch's are pretty parallel. Married 20 years, 2 teenage girls, S8 and a W. who's as predictable as a chain reaction. I moved out in early September. I'm in an apartment that passes for a "double wide". I feel your pain, brother. Moving in with your parents? NFW!!!! I found out today however that as a Reservist, I'm most likely being mobilized for 18 months, with 12 in a warm, dry place keeping 20,000 soldiers alive. Got to get my head in a new place, so DBing doesn't seem so important any more. Got to shift to a new plane here.
COG suggested to me today that he thought my wife might be BPD as well. Went to a few web sites and saw self-help books with titles like "I'm Tired of Walking on Eggshells". HMMM, Welcome to my world. If you check out my thread, you'll see many of the same behaviors on the part of my W. Angry when I came to my house to help my daughter study and left a bottle on the counter. Angry when I did a load of laundry at "her house" (that I pay the mortgage on): "I didn't budget for you using the water here". Angry because 19 years ago I didn't have the Army ship my goods and put them in my truck making her trip across the US "aggravating". Angry because in 1987 her brother was in town and I forgot to tell her he called. Inexcusable on my part, yes, but she brought that up in December 2005. I have not been the most supportive person. I get that hurt. I apologized many times, but the damage is done. I did some unsupportive thing, but no "confessional material".
I'm not Ozzie Nelson, but I'm with you. I think that we're pretty good guys, but you know what? None of that matters in their eyes. They're "not happy", and so we all have to pay the bill come due for that. I guess I'm just venting, but geez, it's really frustrating. My kids are miserable with this. So who's happier? Bueller, Bueller, anyone?
