W is very angry today. Yelling at me in front of the kids. Now saying that she didn't want to get a job, that I forced her to quit her "ideal" part time job in 1996, and now she has to get a full time one to get back in the workforce (even though less than a week ago she said she agreed that her staying home was wonderful for the kids, but that I could have handled her wishes better - agreed), and to pay for the kids private school, like I could support her, the tuition and my new place. Right. It's all my fault, my fault, my fault. I walked away, she followed me to yell some more, I opened my car trunk to put something in it and she shut it before I could. Angry, mean and nasty.
We are trying to get our finances set for the rest of the year, because with both of us now working we need extra taken out. She refused to adjust her deductions, which means we will have to pay estimated tax on Jan 15, or I need to adjust mine. It makes no difference, since it is still the same bucket until the end of the year, but for some reason she won't do what we need for this. I don't understand it.
She is very paranoid, claiming I am manipulating the sitch to my advantage somehow. That I am very intimidating to her. Right: I'm moving out, leaving my kids and house, and not changing any bank accounts, doing everything she's wanted for two years, but I'm doing "something", she just knows it. It drives her mad, and she's lashing out at everyone. I even heard about something she didn't like from our first date (in 1985) again today, so I guess her work on forgiveness is a bit behind schedule.
I refuse to listen to the accusations any more.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
