Hi Calder, The other day I was talking to the physical therapist of my gs who I have gotten to know a bit. I told her that my h and I are going to d, that I do not want this. She said, "Oh no! Mid-life crazies?" Then she said that in her experience with friends to whom this has happened, the WAS (men) always come out looking like 'jerks,' and their LBS end up doing great. She told me that now is the time to do things for myself. A nice unsolicited comment from someone who is not a part of this bb but confirms what we have been saying word for word!
I have tried to completely let go of feeling sad for my h missing out on the family events. I have my own feelings to deal with and decided to let go of taking on his possible feelings on this, as it was his choice to walk away from these events. I concentrate instead, like you do Calder, on how lucky I am to have my family around me, supporting, appreciating, loving and lifting me up.
