Happy holidays to you and yours too! Well I think that if a relationship is in any way abusive, it is best ended. If it was good before, then there is a good reason for keeping a friendly approach. It stops me from getting bitter or too angry. I do maintain boundaries, and tell myself. "He is never coming back."
Then I am more at peace and just get on with my life and enjoy my new challenges and friends and the unexpected novelty of my situation.
There are bonuses all round for me so far in being friendly and people like it usually. I just don't use it to stop me moving forward.. not marking time on the kerb.. but marching on to my own new tune.. a happy one.. For the universal truth is.. Why not be happy? We can all try to be.. Not being happy does us no good, and if we can at all make ourslves get happy.. by faking at first.. then it does help everyone.
That does not mean we are over accepting.. quite the opposite.. but it means we do add to the quantity of happiness in this hard world.. Which can help others as well as ourselves. I work with severely mentally ill people.. Being a happy but empathic person can help bring hope and a wee ray of light to others darkness at times.
Well that is my rant for now!
And H has just phoned re son 29 as he did not get my last email, so very friendly chat , and relief all round that son OK etc.He has extra wee pressie for me, plus boy's pressies which he will hand in to one of son's flats as they live in town too. All very affable. HE HE!
Says he will be in touch soon.. Believe it if you like ,I don't! Three months is the gestation of our meetings!
