Sorry for delay in posting.. been out a lot! Well H came over on Monday, but late but did phone.Loved his meal, laughing and affable.Talking re kids, house, cats, jobs etc. Not even a pretense of photos etc Purely social I felt. We got on fine as if never left at first. He is fatter around the middle, balder a wee bit, and hair a bit longer.. not suiting him. Then he started the" we and our and us" talk. My good friend Carol had told me .. Do not let him.
Tell him no! He started on about getting expensive sailing jacket for OW.. for our boat bought with my Mum's inheritance.. which we did up ourselves and he knew I really missed being on.. I held up my hand and said..No.. I do not want to hear about OW, not interested in OW, but in you. He was really taken aback.
The atmosphere changed, and the cheerful feeling went from him.We talked a bit more etc, then he said he had to go and left quickly. No hugs or kisses this time!
Well I have felt fine since then.. He is obviously still in deep infatuation with OW, not happy with the reminder I do not approve or agree, as I am sure he had got himself believing all was cosy and well.. no problems.
However neither sons nor G/fs want to meet OW again,nor his bro and his wife. So I expect it will be a long wait for next meet up!! But he had to know boundaries and to respect me and my feelings.. I do not regret this. I may email at some point re house things to see if any response or if I am now drummed out of his contacts.
