Thank you for your post. I posted a reply but it does not seem to have got through!
Just to say that OW does not seem a very warm caring sort.. more pushy and controlling! So H may well find if he is less than well ,he gets scant sympathy! As he is a bit hypochondriacal this may grate on him!! Or on her too!
If he does get Dementia later on in years ,she can have the joy of that! I had the young fit and happy guy!
The salsa was a good fun night ,but not for the dancing! It was all only salsa, not mixed as we were told, and the stars of the class got up and did their stuff, which sort of put us rookies off, as the others were watching.
So we just played the party games and had a good fun evening to ourselves as we do! A pity as I do enjoy dancing, but it was fun as it was. I could just see you up there salsa-ing away! Wish you were over here and could give us lessons! What a laugh!
S27 and his G/F were over on Thursday night, from 7 till 11, and tree was dressed etc. We had a really wonderful happy evening. They are so happy together,and so loving and fun with me. S27 said he had managed to see his Dad alone.
I told them it is OK re meeting H, as they know, or OW,and that I seeing H on Monday. My attitude being positive and upbeat.
They were fine to talk. I did not ask, initially, but what came out was that they had been forced by H to go for a meal, and meet OW. They said, “ we really had no choice” ,to get some money he was giving them, as I was, for house repairs, at a time they were very hard up. S27 said it was very strange. I said bro and sis in law had said she was ingratiating. S27 said OW kept saying things to him ,about himself ,which she knew that H had told her..and relating anecdotes about him, or finishing off anecdotes H told about S27,to prove she knew all about him. They both thought this was very weird. Feels like she is still desperately trying to push into the family. It put them off anyway. They are saying they do not want to have to meet her again. I just said up to them, and that S29 thought she was weird too and did not wish to meet her again either. Meantime I am keeping friendly with H who was being good re cash etc.and that was going OK. I did not intend being bitter or vindictive as that was a waste of my life and I was going to enjoy my life all I could. They totally agreed and said they were delighted and thought I was doing great.They said they would be happy to meet new guy too and were just delighted I had met someone.
I said that I was not going at present to introduce them, as that felt heavy, and I want to keep this friendship light and fun as much as I can. We both need that at present, to escape the grimmer side of life. If it lasts it will then be time to meet etc, but I felt it may well not, but still just make the most of the caring company and fun times. Anyway will see!
Thanks again Karen, and keep on tripping the light fantastic through life and enjoy!!
