Thank you for your kind post and good wishes. I am so sorry you are in such a bad place with H and finances. I sincerely hope that it will work out. Often the worst does not happen , but by then we have suffered a million catastrophes in our minds ,as we always imagine the worst, and prepare for that.
I know I do, and wish I could just stroll through life with a shrug! Is there anyone there you can get financial help and advice from? I agree you must protect your interests.. After all he knows that. It may not push him away as he will expect you to do this. Sounds like he is in a mess and maybe head in sand, till he knows what is happening. You can bet he will be trying to cover himself.. I think they have to respect us too and if it is too easy they do not even think of us in it.
Enjoy your new friend! That sounds good! The companionship, company, shared activities also is what matters.
NG and I had this talk re our vulnerability,baggage and decided to go for the fun, not at all serious.. but to be the nice escape for each other doing the things we both enjoy so much.
As I say, I have to remind myself that this is fun and light, and act accordingly.. He is not a spouse or new partner, but a close pal.Need not to get too intense. We are also there for each other if need ,but both very independent folk.
I know when I meet H on 18th, his face will light up, and he will again become my husband in a way. We will gel instantly, chat like nothing has happened, and be laughing and aware. He will love the meal I cooked for him, as he does the cooking for her. He will be helpful and friendly.He will enjoy the visit..A nostalgia trip..
Then he will change back to "her man", get up and go. I will have a week or so of roller coaster.. no matter how strong I feel
I suspect he feels bad about it, but not to change his mind in any way He will be too ashamed to return, admit error, hurt anyone else.
He also will be too afraid of ending up lonely and alone, as he was happy to see for my future. He seems more able to show affection, now he knows re NG, probably he feels I will not be looking to come back, and safe. Suits me at present as he is still well out there.
I have no hopes at present.. I know from B in L that he worries about Alzheimers,as Dad died of that, maybe wants me around still in case OW does not fancy caring role!!
