Thank you for your support again! Just getting ready now to leave for work. I been going over in my head what to say to H and I think minimal is best, as you say ,without stirring guilt too much.
Just something like.." S26 needs you, you are a good Dad, but he needs time to be with you ,on your own, for him, with no undue pressure otherwise."
I think we have to do this, or we betray our children, in our possibly hopeless efforts to regain our spouses. I know you agree our children must always come first, if at risk of hurt or harm. Our efforts should not condone or turn a blind eye to this. I cannot understand why H who worksin child care and education, was reknown for his sensitivity and understanding with children,can think it willl be good to force his sons and G/Fs to see OW ,by emotional, financial pressure and bribery, against their wishes. Turns them more against her I suspect. This drive seems above his wish to see and have time with his son. This type of push also shows in other relationships , family and friends,where he has forced the issue.
I know it is easy to blame OW but from what I have heard she is managing most of their lives, and does push , try to take control,and try to insinuate herself with family and friends.. It works with some, but not with a bitterly betrayed son whose hero he once was. Thank you for your good wishes!
