Hi Jay, Thank ypu for your post! No, I am not getting a divorce. H wants me to give up the formal financial settlement and separation plans. The separation is not necessary anyway, and I do get a better deal by him paying voluntarily, as he has done, but I will ask for a contract or such re the pension in case he does change his mind, or OW gets control and does.
He just wants us to stay married ,and he will pay me as present.He says it is the best deal for me.Guilt driven!
I get to stay in the house only splitting money if I sell it, and he gets only a proportion of it anyway.I can stay as long as I like.
He seems to want to hang on, tho fully with the OW, and lots of his stuff is still here. It does not worry me at all. I can get a D if I need to later, and not lose out. Not easy..But Inlaws said that he is afraid of Alzheimers like his Dad..
I think he assumes he will predecease me, and wants me to have the widow's pension from his work which is a good index linked one. I have no doubt he still likes me ,and cares, He wants me to be OK financially as he and OW both have big salaries and pensions and I do not.. So, will see! I will have a super evening thank you and will take care! Have a great evening yourself!! Love N hugs
