Calder, There is absolutely nothing wrong in enjoying the relationship that you have w/NG. You both a very wise adults who have been hit extremely hard w/relationships that have had some failings in the recent past. Enjoy the time you spend w/each other for it is helping the both of you to enjoy life and not sit home sulking about the entire mess.
Enjoy the time you spend w/your inlaws. They truly love to see you and I'm sure you'll enjoy yourself no matter what.
BTW, you've become an inspiration for others who need to see that we can go on and enjoy ourselves while our spouses, ex-spouses are still wallowing in the pits of mlc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
