I haven't posted on this thread in over a week. I have been very busy. Alot has changed since then also. My wife and I had a very long talk last night about our relationship. She wants us to start out slow and build from friendship all over again. She SAYS that she is not even talking to the OM now. They still work together on the opposite shift though. All of the DB stuff is working. It's not quiet where I want it to be, but I have been able to tell her what I need to see from her. See, Now the problem is that I'm the one who is ambivelent about reconcilliation. I've seen her go back to OM too many times. The length of time it has taken her to decide that she wants to be with me, really bothers me....alot ! She still wants to use the abuse issue as a reason for her slow decision. I'm not falling for that. I do take all of that into consideration, just not gonna let her use it as a crutch. there are still some things that she is not ready to do for me, and I told her that I could see that she was not willing to step out of her comfort zone for me.
I have been talking to and dating other women in the last week or so. It helps my self esteem ALOT . I'm not saying that I would choose any of them over her. I love my wife and I know that she loves me, but I wonder if that's enough. I'm worried that once I let go again that she'll start distancing again. I'm worried that she's not ready to deal with what it takes to put the pieces back together. But one of the biggest factors for me is the resentment over how things played out after she was busted. There's alot more small details that I wont bore you with, but I was wondering if anybody else has had this situation to deal with. I will say this: I am a complete believer in The Divorce remedy techniques. I've watched it work 1st hand.
