The drama just keeps getting thicker all the time. This is no longer a roller coaster ride...It's a freeking Tilt-A-Whirl ! WOOOooOOOOO HOOoooooOOOO! W called me @ work last night to tell me that my sister (My cheerleader) had called and insisted that she come to our family thanksgiving dinner, bcoz They just had to have her pineapple cake there. When I sorta made a funny noise,... the Caca hit the oscillator ! Turns out that now I'm not really in love with her. If I was then I would be understanding and let her make this change in her own time. That I wouldn't want to sleep with other women blah, blah, blah, yada yada yada ! JEEEZ Corri, You were so right. She has "threatened " me with proceeding with the divorce. I didn't back down. She told me that I really had her believing that I loved her and would be patient and always be there for her, but not now that I say I will be with other women. That one is called " dangling the carrot in front of you and when you fall on your face trying to get it, or give up, she can say " gee, if only you had tried a little bit longer"". Well in the name of saving your having too much to read, and to save my two fingers from typing too much ( hey, I'm not bragging, but I know proffessional secretaries that have to use all ten fingers)I'll just put the basic difference of opinions here. My point : As long as OM is in your life in ANY way, I will NOT invest my emotions into this relationship. That doesn't mean that I won't talk to you, or be there for you when you REALLY need me. But it also means that I will persue other women if I feel like it. You don't HAVE to do anything. If you need time, take all you need. I love you, and would like to be the one that is there for you.I just won't do it with OM in the picture. Her:You really had me going there, had me believing that you really did love me and wouldnt hurt me. Now You want to have sex with other women just because I wont cut ties with OM. I have stopped having a physical relationship with him. But you won't trust me on that. I can see that my and OM's relationship will not be lasting and that I know if we are to work things out that I'll have to have no contact with him, but right now I want for you and I to start as friends and let our relationship grow again. I am going through alot more than you and it's not fair to make me do this. I thought you understood. My boundary is that I'm not ready to cut ties with anybody right now, way too confused to make any big life decisions right now. if you want a divorce, then you can have it. I feel like I've lost you since you want other women. You told me you could go without sex for me ( to heal from the abuse issues) but now I see you just want sex. I have been reaching out for you and you wont be there for me, so you dont really care. I'm scared now to invest in our relationship. You just want me to pay for my mistakes. I told her that I felt she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. So , any thoughts on this situation. She's been very upset. It KILLS me to hear her crying on the phone. I just have to keep reminding myself that if I waffle, I'll lose my self respect and any I've gained from her.
