isn't canton close to marrietta ? I used to have a buddy that lived there, worked for martin marrietta aircraft plant. So, Like, How far are ya from the BIG CHICKEN? haha!
Everybody got off onto a discussion about beer on Krylos's thread. Anybody ever had Takara Plum Wine ??? japanese wine. Very good. I'm not much of a wine person, but this stuff is nice. Does anybody know what wines go with what foods??? This Takara is going pretty good with the Salisbury flavored Hamburger Helper I just cooked. Mmmmmmm bachelor life, aint it grand? Did you know that if you take ramen noodles and add those free packs of ketchup from McDonalds...it makes a pretty decent poor boys spaghetti !
I'll tell ya, this divorce thing is going pretty good. She hasn't stopped calling me since. This morning when I got up, she was in my living room watching a movie and had brought me breakfast from Hardees. ( my favorite busquit, steak, add tomato & cheese) Then she just called a minute ago and told me she missed me ! . I shoulda asked her for a divorce months ago.
Be careful. While I do not want to throw water on your enthusiasm... you have GOT to remain consistent. One of the reasons she is sniffing around, is because you EARNED part of her respect back with your boundary.
At this point... I'd REALLY employ the DB techniques... no R talk, just be her 'friend,' always happy, always smiling. Don't always be there when she comes over, don't always answer her calls. I'm rooting for you!
Thank you BBM, that means alot to me. Corri, Thanks for looking in on me. don't worry, I haven't lost sight of the fact that the same issue is still there. But i am glad to see that she is having to give alot more thought to the sitch. If she doesn't want to do the divorce right now, that's fine with me, but since I held true to my word and didn't waffle, I'm sorta proud of myself. She is suspicious that I may be seeing someone, and it's eating her up. Since I've asked her for a D I have no problem moving on and starting to date. I don't say anything to her about it, just let her mind take off like mine did for so long. Of course, if confronted, I'll be honest. I'm ready now. I'm not waiting on her to be my companion. I'm thinking about going to the coast this weekend and stay with friends. I know she'll worry, but thats not why I'm doing it. I've told her she could go if she wants.
The things she's revealed to me about whats she's learning about her childhood are horrible. I can't imagine the hell she's going through. Yes I will be her friend. She knows that. It really is amusing to see how much she doesn't want the divorce. Some of the things she's said to me about being jealous of me dating are nice to hear too.Can't put most of that on here, to risque!
HEY Y'ALL. No real news here, just journaling tonight. W called me this afternoon when I got off work. She asked me if I wanted some homemade soup she had made a couple of days ago. She was getting tired of it. At first I told her no, becouse I was planning on being out of town all weekend. We talked a little while I was driving home ( don't like to talk on cellph and drive) I was being positive and had my PMA going on. When we were closing our conversation, I noticed that she sounded really down. I called her back and told her that I changed my mind and would take the soup, and that I would come on by and pick it up.
She handed me the soup, which was already in a Tupperware type container. I said Thanks and did a little small talk and told her that I'd get on out of her hair. She quickly told me that I didn't need to rush, so I sat down and we talked. The subject of Thanksgiving came up, along with what she was going to get her nephews and nieces for Christmas. I told her that I almost dreaded the holiday season becouse it would be kind of awkward going to family events alone. her family is having thanksgiving dinner next weekend, so that everybody can go to their other family's dinners on Thanksgiving day. I told her that if she didn't have plans she could go with me to my family's Dinner on Thanksgiving day (big extended family function). She's afraid that my family is mad at her and embarraced to go. I assured her that they are not mad at her. I told her another reason the holidays would be awkward is that I miss seing her family too. She told me that I could go with her to their Dinner, but I told her that I wasn't trying to invite myself. She later told me that she might go with me. I don't know. Gonna be weird, no matter what.
I asked her if she was OK, becouse she sounded so down on the phone. She said that it was just life. so that means she was feeling sad. We had a good hug. I left to go get ready for my son's football banquet. As I was getting in my truck I spoke to a lady that was moving into an apartment below hers. She asked me which apartment I lived in. I said " oh, I don't live here...uhmmm, my wife does". Man, talk about a weird feeling, to hear that come out of my mouth and imagine what she must of thought. She just said ahh, and smiled. The first thing I thought about was, great, now she's going to see OM coming and going too. that sucks. AAaaaanyway, went home got cleaned up and dressed up pretty nice, took my son to the banquet, went and got him a frame for his Certificate and stopped by a bar on the way home.The place was packed, lots of women too. I talked to a few, just small talk, as it was very loud inside. I only had one beer and left. I felt like I had "lonely" written across my forehead and every woman could see it. I know thats my own low self esteem or something, but I just couldn't get into a good mood. Never have been much into the bar scene. It's alot of fun if you are with a bunch of friends, but alone is awkward feeling. I was in a really good mood earlier today and now I'm down, and I guess it's becouse I miss her so much right now. Comes and goes.
What's your opinion? should I go to her family's Dinner, or keep my distance ???? I'm also torn on how I should be acting with her right now. I asked her for a divorce saturday night, and now were talking more than ever. I'm sure she is still seeing OM, so I really should have nothing to do with her, but at the same time I also feel I should be her friend right now. What's a boy to do ?????
. I shoulda asked her for a divorce months ago. 
