Ok guys and gals. This is my second post bcoz my first one finally locked up....just when us guys were startin' to have an interesting conversation about the size of our balls !!!!HAHAHAHAHA TOO DAYUM FUNNY! Well, the W just left and we had our talk. I DID ask her for a divorce. I wish I woulda had room for this one last reply to be on the other thread, coz if somebody that hasn't read any of the first one finds this, they are gonna be confusedashell as to why somebody claiming to be DBing would ask for a divorce.And I don't know how to add a link to my 1st thread. Anyway, she came over to wash clothes and fell asleep on my sofa while we were watching a movie (Lucky Number Slevin...AWESOME!) and we had a really nice day, talked about everything EXCEPT sitch and OM. We were really enjoying each others company. Like I've always said, we are so comfortable together, even in bad times. So late in the evening I brought it up and things got really heated at one point and very dramatic (kept remembering your words of advice Corri) and I didn't let any of it be taken personally. She even used the " Go ahead, walk out on me like everyone else has always done" line. Made me feel incredibly guilty, but I never backed down, not once. We talked for hours. Sometimes it got really emotional for both of us. I still never backed down, but neither did she. She did tell me that her and OM had been arguing alot the last few weeks, and that he was not "having his needs met" becouse she didn't want to feel like she was being used. Way too much stuff to go into much detail about, but i gotta tell you, when she left, I was luaghing, and she was smilling. She asked me when I needed all of this done, such as typing up the divorce papers and getting her things out. I told her whenever she felt up to it, I can't twist her arm and make her do it. If I knew how to do the papers, I'd do them myself. As she was walking out the door, she said " well if thats the case, I think I'll do it next year! ", and then with a big grin she said " You can't twist my arm, remember?". She shut the door as I began luaghing. Beautiful ! 1st thread figured out the link thing...if it worked